Being perfect, is the hardest part of all, regarding life. And that is simply because “perfect” does NOT exist. Everyone has flaws, it is just, that some know how to hide them well, and others simply let them show.

Hello my Diamond Lovers! It was about time I continued these series. I was trying to find a topic to talk about, and today’s inspiration comes from an (amazing in my opinion) korean reality show, Kingdom 2021. Briefly, I can tell you that this show is about kpop groups that enter a friendly contest and show off their skills as a group in various performances with different requirements for each one of them.

If, in case you do not know what series I’m referring to, let me show you! #theperfectionismseries is a series I decided to start after wanting to expose all those society standards around the world. These series aim to highlight and emphasize the uniqueness a person has to the fullest. What we should always be, is our true self!

If you happen not to have read the previous post of these series, that’s okay, because all posts are standalones interconnected together. However, I would advise you to read them if you want to boost your self confidence! Now, let’s analyze what “compete” actually implies.

The word compete, as well as competition, competitive and all the other derivatives that follow, usually imply someone’s will to encounter someone else in a certain activity and with their skills, try and win over them.

What comes after is a series of endless criticism, that usually target the one who came second.

How, when, why. You did not study hard enough for this test. You never study hard enough. Someone’s always better than you.

Statements that are usually said but often quickly regretted after. The problem is, why those people who regret what they said, do not appear to apologize or rephrase what they said in a better way. There comes the egoism, and the overprotection one wants for someone.

The majority of these people, with no means of harming the other party, speak a bit too brutally, when analyzing the reasons for an unfortunate event, or a series of them. Undoubtedly, it is true that we can not change someone else. Is it the way one speaks, the words they use, whatever that is, it is a part of their personality.

Even if some people are always brutally honest with us, they do that to give us love, support and push us further, in their own unique way. The thing we should work on, is the way we conceive their criticism. (I know there are also mean people that do no good, so for them, we simply don’t listen. I’ll explain, rest easy😊)

To not be affected by someone’s words, especially when that someone is a close person to you, is a very difficult task. It is normal and natural for us to be sad. But that shouldn’t allow others to play us like a puppet. We should know our capabilities. Let me give you an example.

You know you’re good in singing or for example drawing (think of studying or other daily tasks you’re good at). Do not tell me you’re good at nothing. I don’t accept this answer. Everyone and when I say everyone, I mean it. Everyone is unique and good at something, whatever that is. When you want to become better and excel, at one of the many things you’re good at, there may be moments where the criticism you get will almost eliminate all your positive and confident thoughts about your talents.

This is when you should be brave, for yourself. You know you’re good at what you’re doing. And more often than not, you know what’s wrong and what you need to fix. Take the feedback from everyone you consider important and worth your time. But after that, remind yourself, that no matter how much negativity there is around you, you matter and what you’re doing is constantly improving. Whether that’s singing, writing, drawing, studying, dancing. Whatever it is, you love doing it for a certain reason, or you enjoy it, for another reason.

You will often be criticized, and it does not matter if you’re the best. People will still find something to accuse you of. And exactly because of that, you need to prove to yourself that yes, you can improve and yes, you will get even better. But, the criticism that you received, is nothing more than important feedback, or a jealous response by someone who’s secretly obsessed and jealous of you.

So, the key to winning every competition you enter, is to believe in yourself. Have faith in what you do, in how you do it and be confident for your results. Insecurity, anxiety, madness, fear, jealousy, only lead people to unfortunate situations and exist to ruin your mental and physical balance. But you are not weak, and you are not a loser. As long as you try, you’re always going to be a winner. Even if you don’t get recognized enough for what you do, try harder.

I’ve felt the same way multiple times when I was trying to show my work to the outer world. Often people would just ignore all my effort and be totally unresponsive. But what I’ve learned from all this struggle, was that, as long as I didn’t give up good things were coming. I am still constantly improving and I am glad that every day I have the ability to get better at what I do. And still, I’m thanking all people who supported me back then, and still do.

Moral of the story? Try a thousand times. You may only succeed once. But still, than one time and those many “failures” are significant. Every day, we become a better person. We embrace life differently. And, let me explain it to you another way. Why did you even wake up and made coffee today? Why did you go to work? Why did you study? Because that’s what you have to do, you’ll be thinking. Indeed, that is a part, of the answer. The other part of the answer is that you believed that you could do it. Even if your body was so tired you didn’t want to. Right there it is. You believed in yourself. Yes, even for a cup of coffee, even to get out of bed, you still did.

So, you’re a winner today. You were a winner yesterday. You will be a winner tomorrow. No matter what people tell you, no matter how hard the situation is. No matter what you feel. No matter how scared you are. You’re still reading this. And you still did what should be done today. So be proud of yourself, and even if the sky gets gray, always, be your own sunshine. You deserve it more than anyone else around you.